tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15731253.post1872866361370764258..comments2023-10-05T04:19:10.774-07:00Comments on Two Kid Schoolhouse: Who deserves a baby shower?Marbelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03396985630486715494noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15731253.post-38811705129652303522011-08-15T17:33:07.419-07:002011-08-15T17:33:07.419-07:00I am getting ready to throw a baby shower for my t...I am getting ready to throw a baby shower for my teen (the father doesn't want to be involved). Her birth mother wants her to give it up for adoption but she wants to keep it. Her father and I are going to help her raise/raise it until she is done with school and able to do so on her own. I believe every child is a blessing and God has a purpose for them no matter how old their parents are or their parents marital status. That baby will also have needs that need to be met and a baby shower is a good way to meet some of those needs. I am worried right now about how to go about the party. I want to get what we need, show her support, and celebrate the birth of my grandson but I don't want to show my 8 year old that we are celebrating/giving extra attention to her sister for becoming pregnant as a teen. One thought was I can open the gifts from my family and friends while she does so from her friends and her moms family. Anyways, all babies are miracles and have needs no matter what the mother has done, and sometimes the gift of a child has the ability to turn her life around.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11081118368369232667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15731253.post-80709479056377366532011-01-27T14:06:22.502-08:002011-01-27T14:06:22.502-08:00Sarah, that is bizarre. I've never encountere...Sarah, that is bizarre. I've never encountered that!<br /><br />Maria, I have only one experience with a baby shower for an unwed mom and she was apparently very comfortable with it. To the point, perhaps, of feeling entitled to it.<br /><br />The more I think about this the more the I see that the question sets up a false dilemma. It's not: no shower = no love. There are many ways to show love and to help. Maria, you've described some fine ways.Marbelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03396985630486715494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15731253.post-10999735165279303062011-01-27T09:18:13.686-08:002011-01-27T09:18:13.686-08:00I like the distinction between a party and helping...I like the distinction between a party and helping with diapers, etc. An unwed mother can't be any more comfortable with a shower than a married mother returning to church pregnant just to have a shower!<br /><br />At our church we throw showers for unwed mothers and babies that are part of "A Baby's Breath" which is an organization that supports mothers and families. It's not a party, it's a voluntary collection of needed items that are given to this organization to give to women who need said items. So, it's a shower without the party. And we don't shower a mother individually with a party. <br /><br />I'd like to believe that the intentions of these showers are not to celebrate sin but just the opposite;celebrating Christ's mercy and forgiveness. <br /><br />Playing the other side of the fence...Does a sinner "deserve" a party? Does Christ not prepare a banquet for returning home? Of course, I'm not Christ and cannot see what is in a person's heart, which is why I really appreciate the distinction between a shower party and a support and help to someone who is in need.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15731253.post-75978638446369066542011-01-26T12:46:02.514-08:002011-01-26T12:46:02.514-08:00What an interesting topic! I have to admit to havi...What an interesting topic! I have to admit to having baby-shower, um, irritation sometimes. I am irritated when women come to church a few weeks before the baby is due, the church throws a shower, and then they stop coming. This has happened several times at our church. What--you only come to church so you'll get a shower? It's very weird. This happens particularly with members who have stopped coming for a long time but then show up again when a baby is due.Sarah at SmallWorldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15306137253094526922noreply@blogger.com