I was asked what prompted my last post. That is one of those posts that had been brewing a long time. It's just something I see more and more when I talk to people, when I post on message boards, and read blogs. Of course Christmas brings it out more. A school changes the name of a gift-exchange program because "Santa" is a religious symbol and might offend. (Really, Santa a religious symbol? I can't comprehend the thought process.) People complain about store employees saying "Happy Holidays" instead of "Merry Christmas." (No cite on that one but I recall a lot of Christian indignation and talk of boycotts last year.)
As I think about this some more, I come back to two things:
1. Self-esteem. Has the emphasis on self-esteem killed discussion and debate? Are we afraid that if we say to someone "I disagree with your opinion" that we will harm their self-esteem? Or are people so fragile that any disagreement harms their self-esteem? Do people have to be right all the time in order to feel good about themselves? Why are people so sensitive?
2. Opinions can't hurt you. Really, there are few situations where someone's opinion can harm you. In everyday life, I mean, not extraordinary circumstances like, oh, giving a stuffed toy a name that's offensive to a huge group of angry people who like to execute anyone who they perceive as insulting them. (I wasn't even thinking of that when I was writing.)
Recently I was in a gathering of people, all Christians but with decidedly different views on various topics, including a hot one: the drinking of alcoholic beverages. Some drank, some didn't. When dinner came, some had cider, some had wine. A toast was raised and everyone shared. It was a wonderful dinner. Conversation and opinions flowed freely. Everyone seemed to enjoy it, even as people disagreed. It was a very satisfying event because it was full of good talk.
Friendly disagreements are part of what makes life interesting! Debate helps us think about our own position, figure out why we think the way we do, learn how to express ourselves to explain and "defend" our position, open our eyes to another point of view. If no one ever challenges our opinions or interpretations... we just roll along in life, dumb and happy, confident in our own superiority... and afraid to open our mouths if it means we might disagree. Ready to be angry if someone disagrees with us.
I'm not talking about that sort of brutal honesty that some people think is required. When your neighbor gives you a pie, and you hate it, but she asks if you liked it, you don't say "that was some nasty pie you gave us!" No no no. That's a whole 'nother topic - the art of social lying. (And man can that be hard to explain to kids.)
Why do you think people are this way? Do you think there's any hope for the future? Are people going to become more and more sensitive or will there finally be a backlash?
Friday, November 30, 2007
Discussion, disagreement, and the fear of offense
Is the world getting more sensitive? I don't mean in the caring, nurturing, sort of way. I mean in the "you offended me" sort of way.
Where did it start, this eagerness to be offended? This is a great time of year for offending people. Express your religious beliefs and bam! You've offended someone. Express your lack of religious beliefs and look out! You've offended someone back.
Of course it's not just Christmas, or religion, or politics. Any topic is dangerous. If people have an opinion, there will be disagreements, and the potential to offend.
Conversation isn't so interesting anymore, now that we have to be so afraid of offending one another. If someone makes an assertion, and we question it, we have either offended or have somehow shown that we are offended, thus shutting down the conversation. People don't want to disagree, for fear of offending. So. If we can't talk about anything even mildly controversial, what's left but the weather?
Of course some of this is due to communication via computer. If we can't see that someone is smiling as they type out a question or a comment, we do not know how they feel about it. Smiling and winking emoticons can help, but people are still unsure. So they shut up.
I am not easy to offend, and I enjoy a good discussion. Disagreement sharpens people. When someone questions me, it makes me think about my assertion or my opinion. That's how we learn! That's how we grow! But, not if no one will allow disagreement.
When I'm talking with someone, or reading a discussion on a message board, I make an assumption as I read: that the person is honestly talking/writing about something they believe, not that they are trying to annoy me. I assume curiosity, a desire to share information or opinion. I don't assume malice.
It makes life a lot more interesting. And more pleasant, since I'm not on guard, waiting to be offended. I can't do anything about those who are afraid to offend, but I try to conduct my conversations in a way that shows I welcome discussion. It doesn't always help, though.
Make it a point today not to be offended.
Where did it start, this eagerness to be offended? This is a great time of year for offending people. Express your religious beliefs and bam! You've offended someone. Express your lack of religious beliefs and look out! You've offended someone back.
Of course it's not just Christmas, or religion, or politics. Any topic is dangerous. If people have an opinion, there will be disagreements, and the potential to offend.
Conversation isn't so interesting anymore, now that we have to be so afraid of offending one another. If someone makes an assertion, and we question it, we have either offended or have somehow shown that we are offended, thus shutting down the conversation. People don't want to disagree, for fear of offending. So. If we can't talk about anything even mildly controversial, what's left but the weather?
Of course some of this is due to communication via computer. If we can't see that someone is smiling as they type out a question or a comment, we do not know how they feel about it. Smiling and winking emoticons can help, but people are still unsure. So they shut up.
I am not easy to offend, and I enjoy a good discussion. Disagreement sharpens people. When someone questions me, it makes me think about my assertion or my opinion. That's how we learn! That's how we grow! But, not if no one will allow disagreement.
When I'm talking with someone, or reading a discussion on a message board, I make an assumption as I read: that the person is honestly talking/writing about something they believe, not that they are trying to annoy me. I assume curiosity, a desire to share information or opinion. I don't assume malice.
It makes life a lot more interesting. And more pleasant, since I'm not on guard, waiting to be offended. I can't do anything about those who are afraid to offend, but I try to conduct my conversations in a way that shows I welcome discussion. It doesn't always help, though.
Make it a point today not to be offended.
Thursday, November 29, 2007
Christmas and family disagreements
Leigh reminded me that not everyone has it as easy as I do with regard to families and disagreements over holiday issues like Santa:
Sigh. I let my mother bully me into doing Santa (dh really didn't care one way or another.). I completely regret it now, but I don't want to burst the bubble right here at Christmas time, kwim? When my oldest found out that Santa wasn't real, she was five...she just figured it out herself, and I confirmed it. My mom told her behind my back that I was wrong, and that Santa really was real...that I just didn't know what I was talking about. How's that for family controversy? LOL
Sometimes our families disagree with our decisions. I guess even when my kids are adults I will think they should do things the way I do.
My mother really blessed me (and released me from guilt) when I was getting married. She told me to start making new traditions with my new family. She said I didn't have to do everything the way she had, just the things I really liked. She advised me to take some traditions from my husband's family and incorporate them into our family. She told me that there would be Christmases when I would be away from her, and she might be alone, and that was OK. She told me that if I had kids, I would be their mother, not her, and she would try not to interfere.
I was 39 when she was telling me this, and she was 79. She only had 7 years to interfere in my married life. But she was true to her word!
My mother-in-law doesn't interfere either. Oh, I can think of a few times I might have annoyed her by doing something in a way she didn't like. But other people have voiced their (negative) opinions and occasionally tried to undermine our parenting. My husband and I always had unity of thought and confidence in what we were doing. So even in the face of criticism we were able to say "thanks, but we're doing it this way." And when we are confident and united, I think we will get more respect.
Now there will always be people who that won't work with, I guess. We have to do our best to love them anyway, and minimize their impact on our kids. Sometimes I guess we might have to be firm. We might have to contradict our parents when they tell our kids some things, and we might have to hurt their feelings. Around the holidays, that's harder than ever. So sometimes we might just have to let them win. Sometimes we have to pick our battles. When it's a minor issue, like Santa or no Santa, we can afford to be gracious.
Sigh. I let my mother bully me into doing Santa (dh really didn't care one way or another.). I completely regret it now, but I don't want to burst the bubble right here at Christmas time, kwim? When my oldest found out that Santa wasn't real, she was five...she just figured it out herself, and I confirmed it. My mom told her behind my back that I was wrong, and that Santa really was real...that I just didn't know what I was talking about. How's that for family controversy? LOL
Sometimes our families disagree with our decisions. I guess even when my kids are adults I will think they should do things the way I do.
My mother really blessed me (and released me from guilt) when I was getting married. She told me to start making new traditions with my new family. She said I didn't have to do everything the way she had, just the things I really liked. She advised me to take some traditions from my husband's family and incorporate them into our family. She told me that there would be Christmases when I would be away from her, and she might be alone, and that was OK. She told me that if I had kids, I would be their mother, not her, and she would try not to interfere.
I was 39 when she was telling me this, and she was 79. She only had 7 years to interfere in my married life. But she was true to her word!
My mother-in-law doesn't interfere either. Oh, I can think of a few times I might have annoyed her by doing something in a way she didn't like. But other people have voiced their (negative) opinions and occasionally tried to undermine our parenting. My husband and I always had unity of thought and confidence in what we were doing. So even in the face of criticism we were able to say "thanks, but we're doing it this way." And when we are confident and united, I think we will get more respect.
Now there will always be people who that won't work with, I guess. We have to do our best to love them anyway, and minimize their impact on our kids. Sometimes I guess we might have to be firm. We might have to contradict our parents when they tell our kids some things, and we might have to hurt their feelings. Around the holidays, that's harder than ever. So sometimes we might just have to let them win. Sometimes we have to pick our battles. When it's a minor issue, like Santa or no Santa, we can afford to be gracious.
Wednesday, November 28, 2007
Favorite Christmas music
Right now I'm listening to Adagio Trio's Winter Gift cd. It is gorgeous instrumental music: harp, flute and cello. This has a few songs I don't usually see on Christmas collections: "Let All Mortal Flesh Keep Silence," "Of the Father's Love Begotten." Perfect for a quiet night.
Other favorites:
"Tis the Season: Christmas Guitar" by Dick Freymuth. I really like guitar music.
"A Scottish Christmas" because we like Scottish music.
Third Day's "Christmas Offerings" because I like rock and roll. I also have a few of the "Very Special Christmas" cds, from back when those included artists like Springsteen and Tom Petty. I don't like all the songs so I don't listen to them all that often.
We also have "Elvis' Christmas," mostly for "Blue Christmas." E hates this so we don't play it too much when she's around. Wow, I can't even find the one we have on Amazon. I didn't realize Elvis had recorded so many Christmas albums. Or maybe they made new covers...
Not strictly music, we love "A Classical Kids' Christmas" for the story as well.
Of course, "The Nutcracker." I had the Andre Previn version on LP years ago; I miss it and should look for it again. The one I have is already in the car and I don't know which version it is; we love it, but...
Also already in the car:
Handel's "Messiah" - a highlights CD by Portland Baroque Orchestra. We also have a full version, but let's face it, the choruses are the best part. I love it hearing my kids sing along. "For unto us a child is born..."
Da Capo Players Christmas Fantasia.
James Taylor at Christmas. JT is a sentimental favorite of mine; there are some good songs but I dislike his rearrangements of some standards. I don't like my Christmas music messed with! I feel the same way about Steven Curtis Chapman's "The Music of Christmas." My kids like it a lot, and many songs are good, but his "Angels We Have Heard On High" just isn't right to me.
There are other Christmas cds here, by Mannheim Steamroller, Ray Charles, BB King. Some Renaissance and Medieval music, some cathedral choirs.
We like a lot of variety here! These were collected over many years; some were given as gifts. We rarely buy more than one a year. Oh, maybe in the first years of marriage when there were two incomes and no kids, we might have gone a little crazy. I guess we built up our library then.
I am missing an important piece of Christmas music: Brenda Lee's "Rockin' Around the Christmas Tree." I have to rely on the radio for that one. Maybe this year I'll find that one in the store and add it to the collection.
Other favorites:
"Tis the Season: Christmas Guitar" by Dick Freymuth. I really like guitar music.
"A Scottish Christmas" because we like Scottish music.
Third Day's "Christmas Offerings" because I like rock and roll. I also have a few of the "Very Special Christmas" cds, from back when those included artists like Springsteen and Tom Petty. I don't like all the songs so I don't listen to them all that often.
We also have "Elvis' Christmas," mostly for "Blue Christmas." E hates this so we don't play it too much when she's around. Wow, I can't even find the one we have on Amazon. I didn't realize Elvis had recorded so many Christmas albums. Or maybe they made new covers...
Not strictly music, we love "A Classical Kids' Christmas" for the story as well.
Of course, "The Nutcracker." I had the Andre Previn version on LP years ago; I miss it and should look for it again. The one I have is already in the car and I don't know which version it is; we love it, but...
Also already in the car:
Handel's "Messiah" - a highlights CD by Portland Baroque Orchestra. We also have a full version, but let's face it, the choruses are the best part. I love it hearing my kids sing along. "For unto us a child is born..."
Da Capo Players Christmas Fantasia.
James Taylor at Christmas. JT is a sentimental favorite of mine; there are some good songs but I dislike his rearrangements of some standards. I don't like my Christmas music messed with! I feel the same way about Steven Curtis Chapman's "The Music of Christmas." My kids like it a lot, and many songs are good, but his "Angels We Have Heard On High" just isn't right to me.
There are other Christmas cds here, by Mannheim Steamroller, Ray Charles, BB King. Some Renaissance and Medieval music, some cathedral choirs.
We like a lot of variety here! These were collected over many years; some were given as gifts. We rarely buy more than one a year. Oh, maybe in the first years of marriage when there were two incomes and no kids, we might have gone a little crazy. I guess we built up our library then.
I am missing an important piece of Christmas music: Brenda Lee's "Rockin' Around the Christmas Tree." I have to rely on the radio for that one. Maybe this year I'll find that one in the store and add it to the collection.
Tuesday, November 27, 2007
Sprit of Christmas award
Sandy over at Falling Like Rain gave me a Spirit of Christmas award. But she is really the one with the right spirit, as you can see if you stop by to read her post Perfecting Christmas.
Maybe it's because I'm getting older, but I just don't get upset about having a perfect Christmas anymore. There are really just a few things I need:
- My family around me - husband and kids, and as much extended family as practical.
- Ingredients and ability to make a few holiday treats, like pumpkin bread and cranberry cheesecake bars... This year I may try my hand at English toffee again. It was always too damp in Oregon to make it work.
- My favorite Christmas music.
- A few good Christmas books, beginning with A Christmas Carol. We have started a tradition with Dad reading this aloud to all of us. Don't assume your kids are too young for it. Mine started hearing it around age 6. I think I'll look for the Mr. Magoo version on DVD at the library...
- The Nutcracker, in one form or another. This year, it'll be on DVD and CD. A live performance, maybe next year.
- A tree, maybe. I think I could live without the tree. For many years when I was single, my only decoration was an ornament bowl. Just a crystal bowl my uncle had sent me from Germany, filled with some sequin-and-bead ornaments I'd made, mixed with standard glass balls. I usually do some form of that every year now, along with the tree and the greenery and the wreaths and...
Maybe it's because I'm getting older, but I just don't get upset about having a perfect Christmas anymore. There are really just a few things I need:
- My family around me - husband and kids, and as much extended family as practical.
- Ingredients and ability to make a few holiday treats, like pumpkin bread and cranberry cheesecake bars... This year I may try my hand at English toffee again. It was always too damp in Oregon to make it work.
- My favorite Christmas music.
- A few good Christmas books, beginning with A Christmas Carol. We have started a tradition with Dad reading this aloud to all of us. Don't assume your kids are too young for it. Mine started hearing it around age 6. I think I'll look for the Mr. Magoo version on DVD at the library...
- The Nutcracker, in one form or another. This year, it'll be on DVD and CD. A live performance, maybe next year.
- A tree, maybe. I think I could live without the tree. For many years when I was single, my only decoration was an ornament bowl. Just a crystal bowl my uncle had sent me from Germany, filled with some sequin-and-bead ornaments I'd made, mixed with standard glass balls. I usually do some form of that every year now, along with the tree and the greenery and the wreaths and...
Monday, November 26, 2007
Santa or no Santa?
Every year someone I know struggles with the Santa issue. So many of us grew up with Santa as a fixture of Christmas, but now are not so sure about it. Christians argue about it: "Real Christians don't do Santa." "Real Christians teach our kids why we celebrate Christmas and aren't so uptight about a little fun."
When my kids were little we weren't sure about Santa either. But we ended up deciding we wouldn't lie to our kids. We didn't want them to ask us what other things we'd lied to them about. Not that we accused our parents of lying to us about the whole Santa thing, but... we just couldn't do it. So we were very vague and didn't explicitly say that Santa brought anything to them, or that Santa existed at all.
It didn't take our boy long to ask us directly, so we answered him directly. He was, oh, about 4, or maybe 5. It wasn't traumatic. And since he knew, we didn't bother to keep up a pretense with his sister, 18 months younger. I think it disappointed some of our family members, but it's worked out for us. We did tell our kids it was not up to them to tell other children, and as far as we can tell they never did.
A helpful book in this area is Santa, Are You For Real? by Harold Myra. It tells the story of St Nicholas and the way he evolved into Santa. It's a cute little book and helped my kids sort out fact from fantasy. It may not be completely accurate either. There is seldom a definitive text when it comes to legends. But it doesn't really matter all that much anyway, does it?
In any case, it's nothing to argue about or worry about. A little common sense is all it takes to figure out how to handle Santa appropriately for your family. Be confident in what you are doing and people will be less likely to criticize you for it.
When my kids were little we weren't sure about Santa either. But we ended up deciding we wouldn't lie to our kids. We didn't want them to ask us what other things we'd lied to them about. Not that we accused our parents of lying to us about the whole Santa thing, but... we just couldn't do it. So we were very vague and didn't explicitly say that Santa brought anything to them, or that Santa existed at all.
It didn't take our boy long to ask us directly, so we answered him directly. He was, oh, about 4, or maybe 5. It wasn't traumatic. And since he knew, we didn't bother to keep up a pretense with his sister, 18 months younger. I think it disappointed some of our family members, but it's worked out for us. We did tell our kids it was not up to them to tell other children, and as far as we can tell they never did.
A helpful book in this area is Santa, Are You For Real? by Harold Myra. It tells the story of St Nicholas and the way he evolved into Santa. It's a cute little book and helped my kids sort out fact from fantasy. It may not be completely accurate either. There is seldom a definitive text when it comes to legends. But it doesn't really matter all that much anyway, does it?
In any case, it's nothing to argue about or worry about. A little common sense is all it takes to figure out how to handle Santa appropriately for your family. Be confident in what you are doing and people will be less likely to criticize you for it.
Sunday, November 25, 2007
Jesse Trees and Advent Wreaths
For the last few years, we have tried to put together a Jesse Tree as part of our Christmas celebration. The Jesse Tree tells the story of redemption via daily reading and ornaments to put on a tree. Now, it's always those daily readings that get to us. We'll get busy and miss a day. Or two. Then we're rushing to catch up. Who needs the stress? So this year we may skip the tree, though I will bring the ornaments from previous years out and see if the kids want to try again. They are old enough to run it, if they are interested. Or they may be too old altogether. They are pretty good at seeing Christ in the Old Testament so it's more of a reminder and a sort of funnish thing to do than a real lesson for them anymore.
Another area where we fall down in with the Advent Wreath. Literally. The last 2 years I made my own and while it looked nice, the candles didn't quite fit the holders so they were always falling over. I was also having a hard time finding the candles. This year, since we moved, I have no ideas where the various parts are, so I ordered a premade wreath with candles from the Current catalog. I also plan to skip the daily readings as I've tried to do in the past, and stick to Sundays only.
This year I just want to avoid getting trapped into doing something we can't keep up, then feeling bad or rushed about it. It's ludicrous to turn these methods of learning about redemption into an obligation, something to be forced into the day.
If my kids never make a Jesse tree, maybe my grandchildren will! Will it really matter? Will my kids end up in therapy because we never got a Jesse Tree done, or because their mother yelled at them to work on the Jesse Tree?
Another area where we fall down in with the Advent Wreath. Literally. The last 2 years I made my own and while it looked nice, the candles didn't quite fit the holders so they were always falling over. I was also having a hard time finding the candles. This year, since we moved, I have no ideas where the various parts are, so I ordered a premade wreath with candles from the Current catalog. I also plan to skip the daily readings as I've tried to do in the past, and stick to Sundays only.
This year I just want to avoid getting trapped into doing something we can't keep up, then feeling bad or rushed about it. It's ludicrous to turn these methods of learning about redemption into an obligation, something to be forced into the day.
If my kids never make a Jesse tree, maybe my grandchildren will! Will it really matter? Will my kids end up in therapy because we never got a Jesse Tree done, or because their mother yelled at them to work on the Jesse Tree?
Saturday, November 24, 2007
Toys your children can't live without
Are there some? Why is that? Why are there toys your children feel they must have? Or that you feel they must have?
Are you one of those parents who is running around, frantic to get the latest coolest thing for your kid? Why? How did a toy or other item get to be so important to you or to him?
Is it the marketing of the product? Did your child see the advertisements and decide he needed that toy desperately too? How did he become so susceptible to advertising?
Is it because "all the other kids have it?" Does your child feel she won't fit in if she doesn't have what all the other kids have? How did she come to feel that way?
Is it because you are afraid you will be considered a bad parent if your child does not have whatever items are "hot" right now? Is it because you don't want to disappoint your child on Christmas morning? How did your child grow to have the expectation that you (or Santa) would and could make all his dreams come true?
Are you buying your child things you don't really like or think your child should have, but feel like you have to give in to avoid a Christmas morning tantrum?
Toys and games are great. Stuff is great! Some things are useful, like Legos and Playmobil and dollhouses and building blocks. Some are just fun, like Nerf guns. Some are both. I can't say much about game systems because I don't have any experience with them. I imagine some games are both useful and fun. Some I've heard of seem to be neither.
I think giving and receiving presents is part of the spirit of Christmas. Christians celebrate the greatest gift of all, our Lord Jesus Christ. Folks who celebrate "secular" or the cultural holiday of Christmas are celebrating the spirit of love and giving.
But when a child claims they need, really need a certain thing, something is wrong. When a parent expends a frantic effort (and perhaps pays an inflated price) to obtain some desirable item, something is wrong.
If you have young children, don't let them get caught up in advertising and peer pressure so that they feel they need certain things to survive. If you have older children that are already caught up in it, look at the way you respond to advertising or to peer pressure. Are you coveting your neighbor's new living room furniture or cellphone? Do your kids see you pining for the newest coolest things? Are you discontent and showing it?
Start inoculating your kids against the "must haves" now. It might be painful at first, but eventually everyone will be more content and Christmas can be more joyful.
(This post has been in my head for a while but also partly inspired by this from the Headmistress at the Common Room.)
Are you one of those parents who is running around, frantic to get the latest coolest thing for your kid? Why? How did a toy or other item get to be so important to you or to him?
Is it the marketing of the product? Did your child see the advertisements and decide he needed that toy desperately too? How did he become so susceptible to advertising?
Is it because "all the other kids have it?" Does your child feel she won't fit in if she doesn't have what all the other kids have? How did she come to feel that way?
Is it because you are afraid you will be considered a bad parent if your child does not have whatever items are "hot" right now? Is it because you don't want to disappoint your child on Christmas morning? How did your child grow to have the expectation that you (or Santa) would and could make all his dreams come true?
Are you buying your child things you don't really like or think your child should have, but feel like you have to give in to avoid a Christmas morning tantrum?
Toys and games are great. Stuff is great! Some things are useful, like Legos and Playmobil and dollhouses and building blocks. Some are just fun, like Nerf guns. Some are both. I can't say much about game systems because I don't have any experience with them. I imagine some games are both useful and fun. Some I've heard of seem to be neither.
I think giving and receiving presents is part of the spirit of Christmas. Christians celebrate the greatest gift of all, our Lord Jesus Christ. Folks who celebrate "secular" or the cultural holiday of Christmas are celebrating the spirit of love and giving.
But when a child claims they need, really need a certain thing, something is wrong. When a parent expends a frantic effort (and perhaps pays an inflated price) to obtain some desirable item, something is wrong.
If you have young children, don't let them get caught up in advertising and peer pressure so that they feel they need certain things to survive. If you have older children that are already caught up in it, look at the way you respond to advertising or to peer pressure. Are you coveting your neighbor's new living room furniture or cellphone? Do your kids see you pining for the newest coolest things? Are you discontent and showing it?
Start inoculating your kids against the "must haves" now. It might be painful at first, but eventually everyone will be more content and Christmas can be more joyful.
(This post has been in my head for a while but also partly inspired by this from the Headmistress at the Common Room.)
Friday, November 23, 2007
Consumable gifts
The reason my last post included scented candles as something to resist this Christmas is simple: I have received a lot of scented candles as hostess gifts, and we can't use them. Allergies in the family make most scented candles unbearable for some of us. So, I end up giving most of them away.
Some gift items I like to give to hostesses, or have been happy to receive:
a small potted plant
a box of tea, coffee, or hot cocoa mix
a bottle of wine (sparkling cider for nondrinkers)
some homemade sweet bread, wrapped ready to freeze - mini loaves are great
a small ornament for the tree - if appropriate
local farmstand jams, jellies, honey...
coffeehouse syrups for Italian sodas and espresso drinks
One year someone gave me a little pot of pansies. They brightened my kitchen windowsill for a few weeks, then I planted them outside. If I thought about it, I'd bet that cost less than a dollar, but boy it sure was a nice gift. I remember it and the giver after at least 3 years. The only reason I mention money is because hostess gifts can really stress people out if they have a small gift budget. I don't live like the frugal ladies, stashing thrift-store finds all year long. I don't have the space, the initiative, or the kids to go thrifting and stashing. (I don't like to torture my boy any more than necessary.)
Some homemade gifts we've seen in craft books or on the internet: felted soap scrubs, bath salts, glycerin soaps, lip balm...
Most people appreciate some good chocolate. Make mine dark, please! Of course you have to know if that's appropriate for the recipient. But if it's someone you don't know - for example, at your husband's (or your) work colleague's open house - most anything will work because they can pass it on if they don't like it. In my experience, an alcoholic beverage would be the only thing that could offend.
What other consumable gifts have you enjoyed giving or receiving?
Some gift items I like to give to hostesses, or have been happy to receive:
a small potted plant
a box of tea, coffee, or hot cocoa mix
a bottle of wine (sparkling cider for nondrinkers)
some homemade sweet bread, wrapped ready to freeze - mini loaves are great
a small ornament for the tree - if appropriate
local farmstand jams, jellies, honey...
coffeehouse syrups for Italian sodas and espresso drinks
One year someone gave me a little pot of pansies. They brightened my kitchen windowsill for a few weeks, then I planted them outside. If I thought about it, I'd bet that cost less than a dollar, but boy it sure was a nice gift. I remember it and the giver after at least 3 years. The only reason I mention money is because hostess gifts can really stress people out if they have a small gift budget. I don't live like the frugal ladies, stashing thrift-store finds all year long. I don't have the space, the initiative, or the kids to go thrifting and stashing. (I don't like to torture my boy any more than necessary.)
Some homemade gifts we've seen in craft books or on the internet: felted soap scrubs, bath salts, glycerin soaps, lip balm...
Most people appreciate some good chocolate. Make mine dark, please! Of course you have to know if that's appropriate for the recipient. But if it's someone you don't know - for example, at your husband's (or your) work colleague's open house - most anything will work because they can pass it on if they don't like it. In my experience, an alcoholic beverage would be the only thing that could offend.
What other consumable gifts have you enjoyed giving or receiving?
Thursday, November 22, 2007
This Christmas, resist one thing
So many people are already talking about how overwhelmed they are with Christmas shopping: how much they have to do, how much money they expect to spend. I overheard one woman tell another that she had only about $1000 to spend on her kids this year. She has 3 kids, one of whom is a toddler. Her kids already have every toy I could imagine. Others talk about getting out for black Friday shopping early to get some deals on the popular toys this year. They are worried that they will miss out on some toys their kids are dying to have. They don't know how they will survive the holidays.
Then there are the women who are anxious about what they might expect from their husbands or boyfriends. They want jewels but can't come right out and say so, so they drop hints. Ladies, men are basically clueless about gifts and hints. I am not male-bashing - my husband would tell you that. So many women will wake up Christmas morning full of anticipation and will be upset that their man didn't catch the hints. "I shouldn't have to tell him what I want, he should just know!" Please.
It's Thanksgiving in America but so many people don't seem very thankful, just worried about making this a perfect Christmas for themselves and their families.
I wish this Christmas season everyone would resist one thing they think they should do or buy. One thing to say no to: One toy. (How many will your child really appreciate?) One scented candle for an obligatory office or hostess gift. One trip to the mall. One party invitation. One new pair of boots for a Christmas party. One expectation of a gift from someone else. One oblique hint for a gift. One new decorative item for the tree or the dinner table.
I'm not a proponent of a plain, oversimplified Christmas. I like to buy gifts, decorate the house, wrap with beautiful paper, etc. But every year the stakes seem to get higher and the obligations mount up. Then we find ourselves with no time to really enjoy our families. After the gifts are open, our kids are discontent because even though they received so many things, there weren't enough. Or the thing they couldn't live without wasn't there. Then there are the people who overspend and get depressed in January when the bills arrive.
But if this year you say no to just one thing, you will make it a little simpler, a little calmer. Then next year you can find something else to say no to. And so on, till you reach the point where you truly enjoy the Christmas season instead of just surviving it.
What one thing will you resist this year?
Then there are the women who are anxious about what they might expect from their husbands or boyfriends. They want jewels but can't come right out and say so, so they drop hints. Ladies, men are basically clueless about gifts and hints. I am not male-bashing - my husband would tell you that. So many women will wake up Christmas morning full of anticipation and will be upset that their man didn't catch the hints. "I shouldn't have to tell him what I want, he should just know!" Please.
It's Thanksgiving in America but so many people don't seem very thankful, just worried about making this a perfect Christmas for themselves and their families.
I wish this Christmas season everyone would resist one thing they think they should do or buy. One thing to say no to: One toy. (How many will your child really appreciate?) One scented candle for an obligatory office or hostess gift. One trip to the mall. One party invitation. One new pair of boots for a Christmas party. One expectation of a gift from someone else. One oblique hint for a gift. One new decorative item for the tree or the dinner table.
I'm not a proponent of a plain, oversimplified Christmas. I like to buy gifts, decorate the house, wrap with beautiful paper, etc. But every year the stakes seem to get higher and the obligations mount up. Then we find ourselves with no time to really enjoy our families. After the gifts are open, our kids are discontent because even though they received so many things, there weren't enough. Or the thing they couldn't live without wasn't there. Then there are the people who overspend and get depressed in January when the bills arrive.
But if this year you say no to just one thing, you will make it a little simpler, a little calmer. Then next year you can find something else to say no to. And so on, till you reach the point where you truly enjoy the Christmas season instead of just surviving it.
What one thing will you resist this year?
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
2007 Reading
Bumped to the top so I can find it and keep updating it.
J:
The Ravenmaster's Secret - Elvira Woodruff
Henry Reed, Inc. - Keith Robertson
Little Pilgrim's Progress
Three Tales of My Father's Dragon - Ruth Stiles Gannett
The First Marathon: The Legend of Pheidippides - Susan Reynolds
On Noah's Ark - Jan Brett
Mirette on the High Wire - Emily Arnold McCully
Fantastic Mr. Fox - Roald Dahl
The Water of Life - retold by Rogasky
In process - Midshipman Hornblower - C. S. Forester
Pennsylvania - Capstone Press
Dear Fish - Chris Gall
Aliens are Coming! - Meghan McCarthy
All the Tintins
Flying the Hot Ones - Steven Lindblom
The Ballad of the Pirate Queens - Jane Yolen
Hank the Cow Dog and the Case of the Hooking Bull -
Jacob Two-Two Meets the Hooded Fang
Quiet Hero: The Ira Hayes Story - S. D. Nelson
Abridged version of Around the World in 80 Days - Usborne
Across the Blue Pacific - Louise W. Borden
The Glorious Flight - Alice and Martin Provensen
The Green Men of Gressingham - Philip Ardagh
Various books and website on aviation, particularly fighter planes, for Student Showcase
Great Illustrated Classics version of The Last of the Mohicans - James Fenimore Cooper
Why Can't You Make Them Behave, King George? - Jean Fritz
Kathleen Stinson Otero: High Flyer - Neila Skinner Petrick
Hank the Cowdog: The Case of the Hooking Bull - John R. Erickson
Started but did not finish: The Fighting Ground - Avi
Started but did not finish: The Arrow over the Door
July 2007 (now keeping track by month due to PA homeschooling requirements)
Akiko and the Alpha Centauri 5000 - Mark Crilley
It's a Dog's Life - John R. Erickson (Hank the Cow Dog)
Pick of the Litter - Bill Wallace
August
The Sands of Time - Michael Hoeye
The Castle in the Attic - Elizabeth Winthrop
Knight's Castle - Edward Eager
Star Jumper: Journal of a Cardboard Genius - Frank Asch
September
Nonfiction
Winter at Valley Forge (Landmark)
Hero of the High Seas: John Paul Jones and the American Revolution - Michael Cooper
Partial: The Wind Masters - Pete Dunne (Peregrine Falcon)
The Snake Scientist - Sy Montgomery
Fiction
Rats! - Jane Cutler
George's Marvelous Medicine - Roald Dahl
Tree Castle Island - Jean Craighead George
The Witches - Roald Dahl
Dr. Dolittle -Hugh Lofting
The Voyages of Dr. Dolittle - Hugh Lofting
Tree Castle Island - Jean Craighead George
Little House in the Big Woods - Laura Ingalls Wilder
October
Nonfiction
Snakes - Maria Mudd Ruth
The Palace at Versailles - Linda Tagliaferro
The Stone Age News - Fiona MacDonald
Fiction
James and the Giant Peach - Roald Dahl
Tut Tut - Jon Scieszka
Summer Reading is Killing Me! - Jon Scieszka
Marco? Polo! - Jon Scieszka
Hey Kid! Want to Buy a Bridge? - Jon Scieszka
November
Nonfiction
Men of War - Patrick O'Brien
Dogs - DK Eyewitness
Stone Age News - Fiona MacDonald
Aztec News - Fiona MacDonald
various books on aviation (partial)
Pony Express (Landmark)
Fiction
Several "Time Warp Trio" books
December
Nonfiction
Hero of Trafalgar: The Story of Lord Nelson - A. B. C. Whipple (Landmark)
Watt Got You Started, Mr. Fulton? - Robert Quackenbush
You Wouldn't Want to Live in a Wild West Town! - Peter Hicks
The Bermuda Triangle: Strange Happenings at Sea - David West
The World's Greatest Fighters - Robert Jackson (partial)
Fiction
E:
Twig - Elizabeth Orton Jones
Little Pilgrim's Progress
Across Puddingstone Dam - Melissa Wiley
Down in the Bonny Glen - Melissa Wiley
George Handel - Mike Venezia
The Water of Life - retold by Rogasky
The Golden Key - George MacDonald
On the Far Side of the Loch -Melissa Wiley
The Ballad of the Pirate Queens - Jane Yolen
The Bobbsey Twins and the Mystery at Snow Lodge - Laura Lee Hope
American Diaries: Agnes May Gleason - Kathleen Duey
Beyond the Heather Hills - Melissa Wiley
The Bobbsey Twins' Wonderful Winter Secret - Laura Lee Hope
The Great Good Thing - Roderick Townley
Various Tintins
Strawberry Girl - Lois Lenski
Abridged version of Around the World in 80 Days - Usborne
Nothing Can Separate Us: The Story of Nan Harper - Tracy M. Leininger
Unfading Beauty: The Story of Dolley Madison - Tracy M. Leninger
Meet Felicity - and the rest of the series.
The Ordinary Princess - M. M. Kaye
The Light Princess - George MacDonald
Ella Enchanted - Gail Carson Levine
Cinderellis and the Glass Hill - Gail Carson Levine
Why Can't You Make Them Behave, King George? - Jean Fritz
Toliver's Secret - Esther Wood Brady
American Quilts: Ida Lou's Story - Susan E. Kirby
The People in Pineapple Place - Anne Lindbergh
The Prisoner of Pineapple Place - Anne Lindbergh
Molly Pitcher, Young Patriot - Augusta Stevenson (COFA series)
Standing in the Light - Mary Pope Osborne
Five Smooth Stones - Kristiana Gregory
Winter of Red Snow -Kristiana Gregory
Standing in the Light - Mary Pope Osborne (Dear America series)
Nellie's Promise - Valerie Tripp (American Girls)
The Borrowers - Mary Norton
Ramona Quimby, Age 8 - Beverley Cleary
July 2007 (now keeping track by month due to PA homeschooling requirements)
Emily's Runaway Imagination - Beverly Cleary
Dick Whittington and his Cat - Marcia Brown
Ramona the Brave - Beverly Cleary
It's a Dog's Life - John R. Erickson (Hank the Cow Dog)
Caddie Woodlawn - Carol Ryrie Brink
August
Too many Beverley Cleary books to keep track of
More American Girls
Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle
Pippi Longstocking - Astrid Lindgren
Pippi in the South Seas - Astrid Lindgren
Ramona the Pest - Beverley Cleary
Ramona's World - Beverley Cleary
Ramona and Beezus - Beverley Cleary
September
Nonfiction
Honey Makers - Gail Gibbons
Bees - Deborah Hodge
Fiction
The Penderwicks - Jeanne Birdsall
Everything on a Waffle - Polly Horvath
The Trolls - Polly Horvath
Hello, Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle - Betty MacDonald
Little House in the Big Woods - Laura Ingalls Wilder
Dr. Dolittle -Hugh Lofting
The Cabin Faced West - Jean Fritz
Baby Island - Carol Ryrie Brink
Everything on a Waffle - Polly Horvath
Into the Labrynth - Roderick
October
Nonfiction
The Palace at Versailles - Linda Tagliaferro
Fiction
Hello, Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle - Betty Macdonald
The Trolls - Polly Horvath
The Happy Yellow Car - Polly Horvath
The Pepins and their Problems - Polly Horvath
Mrs. Frisby and the Rats of NIMH -
The Hundred Dresses - Eleanor Estes
The Moffats - Eleanor Estes
Tut Tut - Jon Scieszka
November
Nonfiction
Aztec News - Fiona MacDonald
Stone Age News - Fiona MacDonald
Pocahontas - D'Aulaire
A Look At Saturn - Suzanne Slade
Pony Express
Fiction
Several "Time Warp Trio" books
Return to Gone Away - Elizabeth Enright
The Wizard of Oz - L. Frank Baum
Mary Poppins - P. L. Travers
Mary Poppins Comes Back - P. L. Travers
The Moffats - Eleanor Estes
The Moffat Museum - Eleanor Estes
December
Nonfiction
Fiction
Ginger Pye - Eleanor Estes
A Room With a Zoo - Jules Feiffer
Read-alouds General
Secret Water - Arthur Ransome
The Big Six - Arthur Ransome
Missee Lee - Arthur Ransome
The Picts and the Martyrs - Arthur Ransome
The Children of Green Knowe - Lucy M. Boston
The Treasure of Green Knowe - Lucy M. Boston
Great Northern? - Arthur Ransome
The River at Green Knowe - Lucy M. Boston
A Stranger at Green Knowe - Lucy M. Boston (audiobook)
An Enemy at Green Knowe - Lucy M. Boston (audiobook)
Gone-Away Lake - Elizabeth Enright (a re-read from a few years ago, still great)
The Stones of Green Knowe - Lucy M. Boston
The Tale of Despereaux - Kate DiCamillo (audiobook)
The Swing in the Summerhouse - Jane Langton
The Mysterious Benedict Society - Trenton Lee Stewart
The Astonishing Stereoscope - Jane Langton
September
Justin Morgan Had A Horse - Marguerite Henry
October
Oliver Twist - Charles Dickens
November
Uncle Remus Tales - Julius Lester
Mustang: Wild Spirit of the West - Marguerite Henry
Alice in Wonderland - Lewis Carroll
The Misadventures of Mad Maude (audiobook) -
December
Through the Lookingglass - Lewis Carroll (partial)
Maude March on the Run -
Bible:
Psalms (last 1/2)
Exodus
Hurlbut's Story of the Bible (for a change of pace and to catch up on stories we may have missed)
Read-Alouds History
Story of the World #3
Madeleine Takes Command - Ethel C. Brill
The Story of William Penn - Aliki
Isaac Newton - Kathleen Krull (Giants of Science series)
Peter the Great - Diane Stanley
Struggle for a Continent - Besty and Giulio Maestro
The Sign of the Beaver - Elizabeth George Speare
Mr. Revere and I - Robert Lawson
Ben Franklin of Old Philadelphia - Margaret Cousins
Daniel Boone - John Mason Browne (Landmark)
Sybil Ludington's Midnight Ride - Marsha Amstel
July
Johnny Tremain - Esther Forbes
August
Ben and Me - Robert Lawson
American Revolution - Bruce Blivens (Landmark)
September
George Washington, Spymaster -Michael L. Cooper
George Washington's World - Genevieve Foster
Story of the World, chapters 22 - 24
Amos Fortune, Free Man - Elizabeth Yates
By Wagon and Flatboat - Enid Meadowcroft
October
Stowaway - Karen Hesse
Sightseers Guide - Paris 1789 - Rachel Wright
November
Eli Whitney - Jean Lee Latham
December
Read-Alouds Science
Leonardo the Beautiful Dreamer
Along Came Galileo - Jeanne Bendick
Isaac Newton - Kathleen Krull (Giants of Science series)
Benjamin Franklin's Adventures with Electricity - Beverley Birch
September
Pasteur's Fight Against Microbes - Beverley Birch
The Chemist Who Lost His Head: The Story of Antoine Laurent Lavoirsier - Vivian Grey
Sugaring Time - Kathryn Lasky
October
November
M:
The Pilgrim's Progress
Celebrating the Sabbath - Bruce A. Ray
Rascal - Sterling North (making a study guide for the kids) (March)
My Sister's Keeper - Jodi Picoult (March)
Praying Backwards - Bryan Chapell (March)
The Red House Mystery - A. A. Milne (March)
The Memory Keeper's Daughter - Kim Edwards (March)
Upgrade - Kevin Swanson
The Swallows of Kabul - Yasmina Khadra
The Kite Runner - Khaled Hosseini
Scattered - Gabor Mate
Brick Lane - Monica Ali
Garden Angel - Mindy Friddle
The Girl with the Pearl Earring - Tracey Chevalier
J:
The Ravenmaster's Secret - Elvira Woodruff
Henry Reed, Inc. - Keith Robertson
Little Pilgrim's Progress
Three Tales of My Father's Dragon - Ruth Stiles Gannett
The First Marathon: The Legend of Pheidippides - Susan Reynolds
On Noah's Ark - Jan Brett
Mirette on the High Wire - Emily Arnold McCully
Fantastic Mr. Fox - Roald Dahl
The Water of Life - retold by Rogasky
In process - Midshipman Hornblower - C. S. Forester
Pennsylvania - Capstone Press
Dear Fish - Chris Gall
Aliens are Coming! - Meghan McCarthy
All the Tintins
Flying the Hot Ones - Steven Lindblom
The Ballad of the Pirate Queens - Jane Yolen
Hank the Cow Dog and the Case of the Hooking Bull -
Jacob Two-Two Meets the Hooded Fang
Quiet Hero: The Ira Hayes Story - S. D. Nelson
Abridged version of Around the World in 80 Days - Usborne
Across the Blue Pacific - Louise W. Borden
The Glorious Flight - Alice and Martin Provensen
The Green Men of Gressingham - Philip Ardagh
Various books and website on aviation, particularly fighter planes, for Student Showcase
Great Illustrated Classics version of The Last of the Mohicans - James Fenimore Cooper
Why Can't You Make Them Behave, King George? - Jean Fritz
Kathleen Stinson Otero: High Flyer - Neila Skinner Petrick
Hank the Cowdog: The Case of the Hooking Bull - John R. Erickson
Started but did not finish: The Fighting Ground - Avi
Started but did not finish: The Arrow over the Door
July 2007 (now keeping track by month due to PA homeschooling requirements)
Akiko and the Alpha Centauri 5000 - Mark Crilley
It's a Dog's Life - John R. Erickson (Hank the Cow Dog)
Pick of the Litter - Bill Wallace
August
The Sands of Time - Michael Hoeye
The Castle in the Attic - Elizabeth Winthrop
Knight's Castle - Edward Eager
Star Jumper: Journal of a Cardboard Genius - Frank Asch
September
Nonfiction
Winter at Valley Forge (Landmark)
Hero of the High Seas: John Paul Jones and the American Revolution - Michael Cooper
Partial: The Wind Masters - Pete Dunne (Peregrine Falcon)
The Snake Scientist - Sy Montgomery
Fiction
Rats! - Jane Cutler
George's Marvelous Medicine - Roald Dahl
Tree Castle Island - Jean Craighead George
The Witches - Roald Dahl
Dr. Dolittle -Hugh Lofting
The Voyages of Dr. Dolittle - Hugh Lofting
Tree Castle Island - Jean Craighead George
Little House in the Big Woods - Laura Ingalls Wilder
October
Nonfiction
Snakes - Maria Mudd Ruth
The Palace at Versailles - Linda Tagliaferro
The Stone Age News - Fiona MacDonald
Fiction
James and the Giant Peach - Roald Dahl
Tut Tut - Jon Scieszka
Summer Reading is Killing Me! - Jon Scieszka
Marco? Polo! - Jon Scieszka
Hey Kid! Want to Buy a Bridge? - Jon Scieszka
November
Nonfiction
Men of War - Patrick O'Brien
Dogs - DK Eyewitness
Stone Age News - Fiona MacDonald
Aztec News - Fiona MacDonald
various books on aviation (partial)
Pony Express (Landmark)
Fiction
Several "Time Warp Trio" books
December
Nonfiction
Hero of Trafalgar: The Story of Lord Nelson - A. B. C. Whipple (Landmark)
Watt Got You Started, Mr. Fulton? - Robert Quackenbush
You Wouldn't Want to Live in a Wild West Town! - Peter Hicks
The Bermuda Triangle: Strange Happenings at Sea - David West
The World's Greatest Fighters - Robert Jackson (partial)
Fiction
E:
Twig - Elizabeth Orton Jones
Little Pilgrim's Progress
Across Puddingstone Dam - Melissa Wiley
Down in the Bonny Glen - Melissa Wiley
George Handel - Mike Venezia
The Water of Life - retold by Rogasky
The Golden Key - George MacDonald
On the Far Side of the Loch -Melissa Wiley
The Ballad of the Pirate Queens - Jane Yolen
The Bobbsey Twins and the Mystery at Snow Lodge - Laura Lee Hope
American Diaries: Agnes May Gleason - Kathleen Duey
Beyond the Heather Hills - Melissa Wiley
The Bobbsey Twins' Wonderful Winter Secret - Laura Lee Hope
The Great Good Thing - Roderick Townley
Various Tintins
Strawberry Girl - Lois Lenski
Abridged version of Around the World in 80 Days - Usborne
Nothing Can Separate Us: The Story of Nan Harper - Tracy M. Leininger
Unfading Beauty: The Story of Dolley Madison - Tracy M. Leninger
Meet Felicity - and the rest of the series.
The Ordinary Princess - M. M. Kaye
The Light Princess - George MacDonald
Ella Enchanted - Gail Carson Levine
Cinderellis and the Glass Hill - Gail Carson Levine
Why Can't You Make Them Behave, King George? - Jean Fritz
Toliver's Secret - Esther Wood Brady
American Quilts: Ida Lou's Story - Susan E. Kirby
The People in Pineapple Place - Anne Lindbergh
The Prisoner of Pineapple Place - Anne Lindbergh
Molly Pitcher, Young Patriot - Augusta Stevenson (COFA series)
Standing in the Light - Mary Pope Osborne
Five Smooth Stones - Kristiana Gregory
Winter of Red Snow -Kristiana Gregory
Standing in the Light - Mary Pope Osborne (Dear America series)
Nellie's Promise - Valerie Tripp (American Girls)
The Borrowers - Mary Norton
Ramona Quimby, Age 8 - Beverley Cleary
July 2007 (now keeping track by month due to PA homeschooling requirements)
Emily's Runaway Imagination - Beverly Cleary
Dick Whittington and his Cat - Marcia Brown
Ramona the Brave - Beverly Cleary
It's a Dog's Life - John R. Erickson (Hank the Cow Dog)
Caddie Woodlawn - Carol Ryrie Brink
August
Too many Beverley Cleary books to keep track of
More American Girls
Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle
Pippi Longstocking - Astrid Lindgren
Pippi in the South Seas - Astrid Lindgren
Ramona the Pest - Beverley Cleary
Ramona's World - Beverley Cleary
Ramona and Beezus - Beverley Cleary
September
Nonfiction
Honey Makers - Gail Gibbons
Bees - Deborah Hodge
Fiction
The Penderwicks - Jeanne Birdsall
Everything on a Waffle - Polly Horvath
The Trolls - Polly Horvath
Hello, Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle - Betty MacDonald
Little House in the Big Woods - Laura Ingalls Wilder
Dr. Dolittle -Hugh Lofting
The Cabin Faced West - Jean Fritz
Baby Island - Carol Ryrie Brink
Everything on a Waffle - Polly Horvath
Into the Labrynth - Roderick
October
Nonfiction
The Palace at Versailles - Linda Tagliaferro
Fiction
Hello, Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle - Betty Macdonald
The Trolls - Polly Horvath
The Happy Yellow Car - Polly Horvath
The Pepins and their Problems - Polly Horvath
Mrs. Frisby and the Rats of NIMH -
The Hundred Dresses - Eleanor Estes
The Moffats - Eleanor Estes
Tut Tut - Jon Scieszka
November
Nonfiction
Aztec News - Fiona MacDonald
Stone Age News - Fiona MacDonald
Pocahontas - D'Aulaire
A Look At Saturn - Suzanne Slade
Pony Express
Fiction
Several "Time Warp Trio" books
Return to Gone Away - Elizabeth Enright
The Wizard of Oz - L. Frank Baum
Mary Poppins - P. L. Travers
Mary Poppins Comes Back - P. L. Travers
The Moffats - Eleanor Estes
The Moffat Museum - Eleanor Estes
December
Nonfiction
Fiction
Ginger Pye - Eleanor Estes
A Room With a Zoo - Jules Feiffer
Read-alouds General
Secret Water - Arthur Ransome
The Big Six - Arthur Ransome
Missee Lee - Arthur Ransome
The Picts and the Martyrs - Arthur Ransome
The Children of Green Knowe - Lucy M. Boston
The Treasure of Green Knowe - Lucy M. Boston
Great Northern? - Arthur Ransome
The River at Green Knowe - Lucy M. Boston
A Stranger at Green Knowe - Lucy M. Boston (audiobook)
An Enemy at Green Knowe - Lucy M. Boston (audiobook)
Gone-Away Lake - Elizabeth Enright (a re-read from a few years ago, still great)
The Stones of Green Knowe - Lucy M. Boston
The Tale of Despereaux - Kate DiCamillo (audiobook)
The Swing in the Summerhouse - Jane Langton
The Mysterious Benedict Society - Trenton Lee Stewart
The Astonishing Stereoscope - Jane Langton
September
Justin Morgan Had A Horse - Marguerite Henry
October
Oliver Twist - Charles Dickens
November
Uncle Remus Tales - Julius Lester
Mustang: Wild Spirit of the West - Marguerite Henry
Alice in Wonderland - Lewis Carroll
The Misadventures of Mad Maude (audiobook) -
December
Through the Lookingglass - Lewis Carroll (partial)
Maude March on the Run -
Bible:
Psalms (last 1/2)
Exodus
Hurlbut's Story of the Bible (for a change of pace and to catch up on stories we may have missed)
Read-Alouds History
Story of the World #3
Madeleine Takes Command - Ethel C. Brill
The Story of William Penn - Aliki
Isaac Newton - Kathleen Krull (Giants of Science series)
Peter the Great - Diane Stanley
Struggle for a Continent - Besty and Giulio Maestro
The Sign of the Beaver - Elizabeth George Speare
Mr. Revere and I - Robert Lawson
Ben Franklin of Old Philadelphia - Margaret Cousins
Daniel Boone - John Mason Browne (Landmark)
Sybil Ludington's Midnight Ride - Marsha Amstel
July
Johnny Tremain - Esther Forbes
August
Ben and Me - Robert Lawson
American Revolution - Bruce Blivens (Landmark)
September
George Washington, Spymaster -Michael L. Cooper
George Washington's World - Genevieve Foster
Story of the World, chapters 22 - 24
Amos Fortune, Free Man - Elizabeth Yates
By Wagon and Flatboat - Enid Meadowcroft
October
Stowaway - Karen Hesse
Sightseers Guide - Paris 1789 - Rachel Wright
November
Eli Whitney - Jean Lee Latham
December
Read-Alouds Science
Leonardo the Beautiful Dreamer
Along Came Galileo - Jeanne Bendick
Isaac Newton - Kathleen Krull (Giants of Science series)
Benjamin Franklin's Adventures with Electricity - Beverley Birch
September
Pasteur's Fight Against Microbes - Beverley Birch
The Chemist Who Lost His Head: The Story of Antoine Laurent Lavoirsier - Vivian Grey
Sugaring Time - Kathryn Lasky
October
November
M:
The Pilgrim's Progress
Celebrating the Sabbath - Bruce A. Ray
Rascal - Sterling North (making a study guide for the kids) (March)
My Sister's Keeper - Jodi Picoult (March)
Praying Backwards - Bryan Chapell (March)
The Red House Mystery - A. A. Milne (March)
The Memory Keeper's Daughter - Kim Edwards (March)
Upgrade - Kevin Swanson
The Swallows of Kabul - Yasmina Khadra
The Kite Runner - Khaled Hosseini
Scattered - Gabor Mate
Brick Lane - Monica Ali
Garden Angel - Mindy Friddle
The Girl with the Pearl Earring - Tracey Chevalier
Sunday, November 18, 2007
Not cooking on Thanksgiving?
This will be the first year since 1995 that I will not cook Thanksgiving dinner. I am only contributing a sweet potato dish and some wine.
I'm not sure I can handle it, having Thanksgiving dinner at someone else's house. Three years ago we had dinner for 24. Two years ago it was about 20. Last year it was family only and boy were we lonely.
This year we are in a new city and planned on an "orphans" Thanksgiving. Lots of seminary students would need a place to go, we figured. But we were invited to another family's house.
So. I'm not cooking. I have to decide on only one dish. But there are so many sweet potato recipes! Do I want to go goopy and sweet, or savory? The twice-baked with sage, or the butter-pecan? I can't go too goopy and sweet. I just can't. No marshmallows, please.
I'm not sure I can handle it, having Thanksgiving dinner at someone else's house. Three years ago we had dinner for 24. Two years ago it was about 20. Last year it was family only and boy were we lonely.
This year we are in a new city and planned on an "orphans" Thanksgiving. Lots of seminary students would need a place to go, we figured. But we were invited to another family's house.
So. I'm not cooking. I have to decide on only one dish. But there are so many sweet potato recipes! Do I want to go goopy and sweet, or savory? The twice-baked with sage, or the butter-pecan? I can't go too goopy and sweet. I just can't. No marshmallows, please.
Saturday, November 17, 2007
Why I will never be a seamstress.
Sewing is one of my pleasures. I do like to sew. Right now doll clothes are my specialty. They are not very high-quality. Just because I like to sew does not mean I'm good at it. I make a lot of mistakes. A while back I related my problem with keeping right sides together. But, I keep trying.
My little E is having a trousers crisis: we can't find any that fit her. So we decided we should make some simple elastic waist pants for her. We planned to start with some pajamas for practice. I had a large piece of flannel purchased for some long-forgotten project. One of the nice things about flannel is that both sides feel nice. Both sides look the same, too, if it's a solid fabric. This had a faint print of blue flowers on white. The wrong side of the fabric was just white. This is important to know. This is foreshadowing, folks.
Since elastic waist pants require only 2 patterns pieces, and I have sewn before (but not pants), I didn't bother to look at the layout instructions. We just pinned and cut. Then it was time to put the piece together. I remembered to put them right sides together. But they didn't go together. If you know how to sew pants, you know the problem. I can't exactly explain it. But I had positioned the pattern pieces in such a way that they simply couldn't be pinned right sides together.
I really try not to get frustrated and burst into tears in front of my children. It was hard not to. But I explained, as calmly as I could, the problem. I showed E that we could still make the pants, but they would be, uh, mismatched. Part of the pants would be all white; part would have the blue flowers. At that point I couldn't tell exactly how that would work out.
She cheerfully accepted the idea of the funny pants and we pressed on. Got the pants finished before bedtime, all except for the hem! They fit perfectly. They are cozy and warm and comfy. The front of the pants is white; the back has the printed side out.
For wearing at home, mismatched pj pants are fine. It would have looked better, and more intentional, if the front of one leg and the back of the other matched. But I couldn't have planned it that way.
Today we bought some corduroy to try again, this time to make some pants she can wear outside the house. I'll be checking the instructions for the pattern layout this time!
My little E is having a trousers crisis: we can't find any that fit her. So we decided we should make some simple elastic waist pants for her. We planned to start with some pajamas for practice. I had a large piece of flannel purchased for some long-forgotten project. One of the nice things about flannel is that both sides feel nice. Both sides look the same, too, if it's a solid fabric. This had a faint print of blue flowers on white. The wrong side of the fabric was just white. This is important to know. This is foreshadowing, folks.
Since elastic waist pants require only 2 patterns pieces, and I have sewn before (but not pants), I didn't bother to look at the layout instructions. We just pinned and cut. Then it was time to put the piece together. I remembered to put them right sides together. But they didn't go together. If you know how to sew pants, you know the problem. I can't exactly explain it. But I had positioned the pattern pieces in such a way that they simply couldn't be pinned right sides together.
I really try not to get frustrated and burst into tears in front of my children. It was hard not to. But I explained, as calmly as I could, the problem. I showed E that we could still make the pants, but they would be, uh, mismatched. Part of the pants would be all white; part would have the blue flowers. At that point I couldn't tell exactly how that would work out.
She cheerfully accepted the idea of the funny pants and we pressed on. Got the pants finished before bedtime, all except for the hem! They fit perfectly. They are cozy and warm and comfy. The front of the pants is white; the back has the printed side out.
For wearing at home, mismatched pj pants are fine. It would have looked better, and more intentional, if the front of one leg and the back of the other matched. But I couldn't have planned it that way.
Today we bought some corduroy to try again, this time to make some pants she can wear outside the house. I'll be checking the instructions for the pattern layout this time!
Thursday, November 15, 2007
It's 7:30 am...
and all over my neighborhood 8 year olds are struggling to get ready for the bus which comes at 8. 6 and 7 year olds too. Even 5 year olds! Babies, getting on the bus at 8 am. That bus won't bring them home till 4 pm. Even the littlest ones stay at school all day long.
From 8 am till 4 pm - almost an adult work day - these children will not have a moment alone. They won't have any privacy. They might have a little time to do just what they want to do. Or maybe not.
When they get home at 4 some of them will go into their houses and work some more. They won't have time to play.
It's 7:30 am. I just walked by my8 year old daughter's room. She is awake, snuggled up reading Mary Poppins Comes Back. She started it yesterday and she'll finish it today. In a little while she'll get up and we'll read together during breakfast. She'll do her "tablework" and I'll read to her and her brother (who is still asleep, fueling that big growth spurt he's going through right now). We'll read together, do a science experiment or two, work on booklets the kids are making for our reading group next week. She'll have lots of time for reading books of her own choice and doing crafts.
If the little girl down the street didn't have so much homework, maybe she and my daughter could play for an hour between school and dinner. But she will, and they won't.
From 8 am till 4 pm - almost an adult work day - these children will not have a moment alone. They won't have any privacy. They might have a little time to do just what they want to do. Or maybe not.
When they get home at 4 some of them will go into their houses and work some more. They won't have time to play.
It's 7:30 am. I just walked by my8 year old daughter's room. She is awake, snuggled up reading Mary Poppins Comes Back. She started it yesterday and she'll finish it today. In a little while she'll get up and we'll read together during breakfast. She'll do her "tablework" and I'll read to her and her brother (who is still asleep, fueling that big growth spurt he's going through right now). We'll read together, do a science experiment or two, work on booklets the kids are making for our reading group next week. She'll have lots of time for reading books of her own choice and doing crafts.
If the little girl down the street didn't have so much homework, maybe she and my daughter could play for an hour between school and dinner. But she will, and they won't.
Tuesday, November 06, 2007
NEA comment on kids' names
Joanne Jacobs had a little piece this morning about comments made by Reg Weaver, head of the NEA. He links unusual kids' names with poor schools. It'll be interesting to see the backtracking on this one, 'cause you know it's going to be all over the blogosphere (if it isn't already).
The original article (to which Joanne links) was in the Tulsa World.
The original article (to which Joanne links) was in the Tulsa World.
Sunday, November 04, 2007
Education, Interrupted?
Last week we had an experience at home that had me thinking about homechooling vs. conventional schooling again.
Our laundry room got flooded. It wasn't as bad as it sounds. A washing machine hose wiggled out of place and a rinse cycle went all over the floor instead of down the drain. It has happened before; we thought we had the problem resolved but... guess not!
So it was sometime between math and doing our discussion questions on the week's chapters of Little House on the Prairie when we discovered the flood. It was an extremely inconvenient time - we were on a tight schedule to finish our tablework, eat lunch, and get to a homeschool program at a local library. But the laundry room is also a storeroom, and it was packed, and it had to be emptied...
My kids really sprang into action. We carried stuff out to the back yard. Wet lawn chairs were set up to dry. Cardboard boxes of powdered detergent were taken into the kitchen and the dry contents dumped into bowls and labeled. The mop, and then the shop-vac, were put to use. Then the kids went into the dungeon (a 4-ft tall crawlspace that we use for storage) to check the damage in there. They got towels and helped clean that up too.
By the time we were done there was just time to jump in the car and eat lunch on the way to the library. During the weather program my mind wandered. What an interruption to my kids' "school" day! I pondered a bit. If they'd been at school, they wouldn't have had their day cut short. I'd have taken care of it by myself. They would have done all the things they were supposed to do. They wouldn't have had McDonald's for lunch on the road. They'd have had a normal day and wouldn't even have to know about the flood.
But wait a minute! I'd have had to do all that work alone. It would have taken forever! They wouldn't have had the experience of jumping into some hard work that needed to be done in a hurry. They would have missed out on some real life. I was proud of them for working so hard, for responding so well to the situation. They felt a sense of accomplishment for providing so much help. I don't know for sure, but maybe more than they'd have felt coming home with a gold-starred math worksheet.
Used to be that it was normal for kids to be home with their families, experiencing real life and doing real work. Now it seems like an interruption to the more important work of going to school.
I'm glad my kids were home that day. And I'm glad for that minor, non-life-threatening emergency that showed us all that when they need to, they can step up and get some work done.
Our laundry room got flooded. It wasn't as bad as it sounds. A washing machine hose wiggled out of place and a rinse cycle went all over the floor instead of down the drain. It has happened before; we thought we had the problem resolved but... guess not!
So it was sometime between math and doing our discussion questions on the week's chapters of Little House on the Prairie when we discovered the flood. It was an extremely inconvenient time - we were on a tight schedule to finish our tablework, eat lunch, and get to a homeschool program at a local library. But the laundry room is also a storeroom, and it was packed, and it had to be emptied...
My kids really sprang into action. We carried stuff out to the back yard. Wet lawn chairs were set up to dry. Cardboard boxes of powdered detergent were taken into the kitchen and the dry contents dumped into bowls and labeled. The mop, and then the shop-vac, were put to use. Then the kids went into the dungeon (a 4-ft tall crawlspace that we use for storage) to check the damage in there. They got towels and helped clean that up too.
By the time we were done there was just time to jump in the car and eat lunch on the way to the library. During the weather program my mind wandered. What an interruption to my kids' "school" day! I pondered a bit. If they'd been at school, they wouldn't have had their day cut short. I'd have taken care of it by myself. They would have done all the things they were supposed to do. They wouldn't have had McDonald's for lunch on the road. They'd have had a normal day and wouldn't even have to know about the flood.
But wait a minute! I'd have had to do all that work alone. It would have taken forever! They wouldn't have had the experience of jumping into some hard work that needed to be done in a hurry. They would have missed out on some real life. I was proud of them for working so hard, for responding so well to the situation. They felt a sense of accomplishment for providing so much help. I don't know for sure, but maybe more than they'd have felt coming home with a gold-starred math worksheet.
Used to be that it was normal for kids to be home with their families, experiencing real life and doing real work. Now it seems like an interruption to the more important work of going to school.
I'm glad my kids were home that day. And I'm glad for that minor, non-life-threatening emergency that showed us all that when they need to, they can step up and get some work done.
Saturday, November 03, 2007
Clothes shopping Q & A
Q. What do you get when you mix a tall, thin, long-waisted girl with the current style of low-rise pants?
A. A shopping ordeal.
My poor little E is in desperate need of some new jeans or other pants. But we can't find any that fit her. Today we went to 3 stores in search of something - anything! - for her to wear to play in the yard, go hiking, etc. Leggings get too wet and aren't that warm. Dresses and skirts are too full and get in the way. Jeans are OK by me, but... they have to fit, they can't have rhinestones and they can't have words on them. (Especially on the backside.) We both prefer that they not be pre-faded and ratty looking before she's even worn them. We found... nothing. Not even in the boys' department!
I rant about girls' clothing periodically - I guess every time I try to shop. It's time again.
We did a lot of talking as we shopped. My girl asked me why girls' clothes are so ugly and uncomfortable. We talked about the fashion industry, and the fact that fashion designers and manufacturers have to make people feel they need new clothes every season so they keep buying new stuff all the time. We talked about people feeling like they need to be fashionable and stylish. And that some women, for some reason, like their young girls to dress like grownup women, with high-heeled shoes and low-rise pants, glitter and rhinestones and shirts with seaming to show off non-existent bustlines. She didn't ask why she doesn't see me in clothing like that.
We also talked a lot about standards. Kerri blogged about this recently so it was on my mind. My standards for dress are pretty strict; at least that's what people tell me. I don't expect anyone else to follow my standard. But I'm not going to lower it because the stores carry stuff that doesn't meet it. We'll find a way to do without the jeans, or whatever. But the standard is set. If we relax it for the sake of convenience, or fashion, it wasn't much of a standard, eh?
I suggested maybe we give up on pants and wear skirts and dresses. I could make her any number of skirts she wants. But she didn't like that idea. She's uncomfortable running and playing in a skirt. I reminded her of some girls we know who never wear pants. She acknowledged that but said she's still not sure about it. She just feels more modestly dressed in pants on certain occasions. I can't argue with that.
Another standard we have is dressing for church. We dress "up" for church. No jeans or sneakers, no pants for me. Well, I've worn pants when I've had nursery duty. Easier for getting down on the floor with a 2 year old. Now I don't care that other women wear pants or that men wear shorts in the summer or kids wear jeans or sweats and sneakers. But I was brought up to understand that when I am going out to worship God it's worth the effort to do more than pull on the first pair of sweats that I find. I am sometimes amazed at the ratty clothes people wear to church. I have to remind myself that the important thing is: they are in church. They didn't sleep in and stay home!
I know there are places to get more modest and appropriate clothing. Lands' End and LL Bean come to mind. They are great, though even they can't help with the fit problem. My girl has a nonstandard body. But their clothes come closer. I sometimes balk at the cost, though.
Wonder if I have enough corduroy to whip up a pair of elastic-waist pants for her... it's time to crank up the sewing machine.
A. A shopping ordeal.
My poor little E is in desperate need of some new jeans or other pants. But we can't find any that fit her. Today we went to 3 stores in search of something - anything! - for her to wear to play in the yard, go hiking, etc. Leggings get too wet and aren't that warm. Dresses and skirts are too full and get in the way. Jeans are OK by me, but... they have to fit, they can't have rhinestones and they can't have words on them. (Especially on the backside.) We both prefer that they not be pre-faded and ratty looking before she's even worn them. We found... nothing. Not even in the boys' department!
I rant about girls' clothing periodically - I guess every time I try to shop. It's time again.
We did a lot of talking as we shopped. My girl asked me why girls' clothes are so ugly and uncomfortable. We talked about the fashion industry, and the fact that fashion designers and manufacturers have to make people feel they need new clothes every season so they keep buying new stuff all the time. We talked about people feeling like they need to be fashionable and stylish. And that some women, for some reason, like their young girls to dress like grownup women, with high-heeled shoes and low-rise pants, glitter and rhinestones and shirts with seaming to show off non-existent bustlines. She didn't ask why she doesn't see me in clothing like that.
We also talked a lot about standards. Kerri blogged about this recently so it was on my mind. My standards for dress are pretty strict; at least that's what people tell me. I don't expect anyone else to follow my standard. But I'm not going to lower it because the stores carry stuff that doesn't meet it. We'll find a way to do without the jeans, or whatever. But the standard is set. If we relax it for the sake of convenience, or fashion, it wasn't much of a standard, eh?
I suggested maybe we give up on pants and wear skirts and dresses. I could make her any number of skirts she wants. But she didn't like that idea. She's uncomfortable running and playing in a skirt. I reminded her of some girls we know who never wear pants. She acknowledged that but said she's still not sure about it. She just feels more modestly dressed in pants on certain occasions. I can't argue with that.
Another standard we have is dressing for church. We dress "up" for church. No jeans or sneakers, no pants for me. Well, I've worn pants when I've had nursery duty. Easier for getting down on the floor with a 2 year old. Now I don't care that other women wear pants or that men wear shorts in the summer or kids wear jeans or sweats and sneakers. But I was brought up to understand that when I am going out to worship God it's worth the effort to do more than pull on the first pair of sweats that I find. I am sometimes amazed at the ratty clothes people wear to church. I have to remind myself that the important thing is: they are in church. They didn't sleep in and stay home!
I know there are places to get more modest and appropriate clothing. Lands' End and LL Bean come to mind. They are great, though even they can't help with the fit problem. My girl has a nonstandard body. But their clothes come closer. I sometimes balk at the cost, though.
Wonder if I have enough corduroy to whip up a pair of elastic-waist pants for her... it's time to crank up the sewing machine.
Adventurous? Really?
When we lived near Portland we used to go to the Audubon center a lot. You know, John James Audubon, the bird artist. The center there is in the middle of Forest Park, and it's just a great place to visit. Lots of stuffed birds to look at. I know some find that gruesome, but I think it's great to see those birds up close. We also enjoyed visiting the birds in the rehabilitation center.
So when we moved it seemed perfectly natural to seek out an Audubon center here. Well, we hit the jackpot - Audubon's first home, Mill Grove, is just a beautiful 40-minute country drive away.
Last week we decided to go, and put out a message on our homeschool group's website for some companions.
Well, we got a great response, and 3 other families joined us. Many more had interest but not the time. We're going to try to set up a "real" field trip/class there soon. It was very similar to the center in Portland - the rehab center, the stuffed birds, the hiking trails. This center had a lot of prints that I'd love to spend more time studying. My kids and I will have to go again, alone, without the distraction of friends.
The funny part was the reaction of people. They were amazed that I was going out and about so much after being here only a few months. I got that reaction, too, at the first "park day" we went to, less than one week after arriving in town. (We had joined the group before moving. I do thank God for yahoo groups and other ways to connect with people long distance. Truly. It is a real blessing to be able to scope out an area and acquire some acquaintances immediately upon arriving in a new town.)
Anyway, I don't think that's very adventurous. I think that's just, I don't know, normal. We moved, we need and want to get to know the area and get to know some people, so we get around. We'll be attracted to some places that the "natives" or other long-time residents won't think of. There are places near Portland that we never got around to visiting. But I figure we're not going to get to know the area or find any friends if we stay home all the time and are hesitant to try to find our way to new places. But, it seems that most people don't think that way.
I'll tell you about someone adventurous. A few years ago when I was planning a women's weekend retreat with my small church, we got a call from someone new in town. She'd never been to our church but wanted to come to the retreat. Wow, that really put us in a tizzy. Why would she want to spend the weekend with a bunch of strangers? But she came, and we loved her, and she and her husband started attending our church immediately. Their church-shopping days were over right then.
So I don't think going on a day trip to an unknown place in a town 40 miles away is so very adventurous.
And I wouldn't say that people who don't like to do that are wrong. Some people are more comfortable at home. Some people can't get around easily. I don't think what we do is "the right way" but I also don't think it's remarkable.
How adventurous are you?
So when we moved it seemed perfectly natural to seek out an Audubon center here. Well, we hit the jackpot - Audubon's first home, Mill Grove, is just a beautiful 40-minute country drive away.
Last week we decided to go, and put out a message on our homeschool group's website for some companions.
Well, we got a great response, and 3 other families joined us. Many more had interest but not the time. We're going to try to set up a "real" field trip/class there soon. It was very similar to the center in Portland - the rehab center, the stuffed birds, the hiking trails. This center had a lot of prints that I'd love to spend more time studying. My kids and I will have to go again, alone, without the distraction of friends.
The funny part was the reaction of people. They were amazed that I was going out and about so much after being here only a few months. I got that reaction, too, at the first "park day" we went to, less than one week after arriving in town. (We had joined the group before moving. I do thank God for yahoo groups and other ways to connect with people long distance. Truly. It is a real blessing to be able to scope out an area and acquire some acquaintances immediately upon arriving in a new town.)
Anyway, I don't think that's very adventurous. I think that's just, I don't know, normal. We moved, we need and want to get to know the area and get to know some people, so we get around. We'll be attracted to some places that the "natives" or other long-time residents won't think of. There are places near Portland that we never got around to visiting. But I figure we're not going to get to know the area or find any friends if we stay home all the time and are hesitant to try to find our way to new places. But, it seems that most people don't think that way.
I'll tell you about someone adventurous. A few years ago when I was planning a women's weekend retreat with my small church, we got a call from someone new in town. She'd never been to our church but wanted to come to the retreat. Wow, that really put us in a tizzy. Why would she want to spend the weekend with a bunch of strangers? But she came, and we loved her, and she and her husband started attending our church immediately. Their church-shopping days were over right then.
So I don't think going on a day trip to an unknown place in a town 40 miles away is so very adventurous.
And I wouldn't say that people who don't like to do that are wrong. Some people are more comfortable at home. Some people can't get around easily. I don't think what we do is "the right way" but I also don't think it's remarkable.
How adventurous are you?
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