Saturday, January 30, 2010

Cultural education: the mall on Saturday night

Last week we had a Girl Scout cookie booth at a local mall. I hate the mall, any mall. There was a time I loved malls, and recreational shopping. No more, no more. But, cookies must be sold and if we have to go to the mall to do it, we'll go.

The mall on Saturday at 5 pm is quiet. As time goes on it gets busier, but not so much with shoppers. Teens, kids, traveling in packs, walking up and down the mall. Oh, we did have adults come by and some even bought cookies, but mostly we watched kids going by.

The highlight (for lack of a better term) came when a couple of girls ran up to our booth, asking for a wet washcloth or paper towel. Why they thought we'd have one is beyond me. Maybe they knew Girl Scouts are supposed to be prepared. I saw red on one girl's sleeve. I thought it was a stain from the lipstick she was holding open. But no, it was blood, coming from her companion's hand.

The girls rushed off to the bathroom. A few minutes later a maintenance man (why is he working at 8 pm?) came up and asked if I knew how the girl got hurt. Why are you people coming up and asking me these questions? Just buy some cookies, will you? I admitted that I didn't know. He sighed deeply, then said "it's bad when the girls come to fight." What? Girls come here to fight? I had to ask him if I'd heard right. He gave me that look that says "what planet do you live on?" and said that yes, there are lots of fights between girls. They go to the mall to fight. You heard that right! Girls. Fighting at the mall.

On the way home we had to talk about all this. My kids have no understanding of people who hang out at the mall. The boy despises the place. The girl likes clothing, so she knows sometimes we have to go to the mall. It's like a tool: useful, sometimes necessary. (Though actually we go very rarely, and usually only to one one of the big stores we can access directly from the outside.) It's not a place to go for fun.

We talked about the sad fact that some kids' homes are not comfortable places to hang out. There might not be any parents around so they'd rather be out of the house. Or their parents might not allow friends. They go to the mall so they're not bored at home.

"Why don't they read a book?" my innocent one asked. But she knows the answer. She's seen enough glimpses of other lives to know that for some, getting bloodied at the mall is a far better way to pass a Saturday night than staying home reading a book.


Sandy said...

I'm guessing that this happened because you have a kind face, Margaret. I know if I got into a fist-fight with a homeschool mom at the mall, I'd surely come to you for a wet paper towel. Or a cookie. The mall in our old town had become the site of choice for gang fights on the weekends. I have absolutely no explanation for this. Our church spent a lot of time and money building a youth center as an answer to the problem. Apparently they felt that teen violence was the result of a lack of basketball courts. It makes me feel very old to write this, but the whole situation makes me think that this country is going you-know-where in a hand basket. But, try to have a nice night regardless.

Sandy said...

I read this whole thing to my kids and they said that writing "you-know-where" is what made me sound old. Sigh.

Mrs. Darling said...

Hey! I came over here to read IN Defense of Homeschoool Moms who Sleep in or something like that. What happened to it? Now i have to go to my google reader to read it! :)
Blessings today!

Marbel said...
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Marbel said...

Boy, I can't even post a comment on my own blog without making a mistake!

Mrs. D, that post was not finished. I am not sure how it ended up being published! It is back in draft form, and should be up tomorrow!

But thanks for checking in!