Tuesday, August 28, 2007

Outsider kids

Tonight we went to a social event. It was primarily for adults but families were included, so that meant there were some kids there. Not many. Well, lots of babies - most of the adults in the crowd were pretty young. The few older kids that were there belonged to the co-hosts. The event was held at the home of one "set" of kids, and the other set obviously knew them well and were comfortable at the house.

This did not bode well for the single set of outsider kids who came to this event. They were briefly scrutinized and then ignored.

Now, it is sometimes easy for kids to strike up a friendship with a stranger, but usually when it happens spontaneously it is on fairly neutral territory, like a playground. It is a little more difficult in someone's house, where the new kids are at a disadvantage.

It would seem reasonable that the parents of the kids of the hosting house would make introductions between the sets of kids. And, perhaps, at this mostly-adult event where some kids are expected, to have some form of ice-breaker to make the new kids feel a little more comfortable.

At least, that is what I have always done, and most people I know have done.

I hope you do it too.


kerri @ gladoil said...

When "new kids" are coming over I always give the "Include them and make them welcome" lecture. We have friends who we've known all our childrens' lives whose daughter studiously snubs S. everytime we go over there. Now if she were mine...

Marbel said...

Well now Kerri, I knew you would take care of your kiddoes in that way. And I have to say they were quite welcoming to us!

Mrs. Darling said...

I assume you are saying that this happened to you. I hate it when people act like that. That is wrong on every level.